Heart, Light, Snow

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You never know what a new morning will bring. I awakened with what can be all too familiar: that clutch of pain in my neck and head, but then as I moved across the room, an increased heart rate that gathered steam, then thundered its way through morning preparations. A shower was not a good idea, at all; it ended fast. I was confounded. Often my myriad heart issues settle and improve with time but no. I felt breathless, not a good sign.

Once dressed, the question was: do I call 911? My cardiologist or my husband or both? I managed the blood pressure cuff and found the vitals alarming– very high blood pressure and heart rate still unstable. My chest felt better sitting. I didn’t identify any other sign of heart attack yet felt unwell.

I sat and thought about what had entered my mind when I had been awakened off and on by the creeping neck pain and various heart arrhythmias. I had said one prayer in the thick, long darkness: Lord, please let me know what I need to do about this. By morning I was getting the directive to not ignore things. I monitored my heart and tried to drink my tea and eat a little. Heart rate was falling; that was good. But I did not feel okay yet. I felt…stunned, unstable, faint at moments.

The night before had been wonderful. A grandson turned eleven and his dad–he is my son’s son–had made chili and I made the cake and added potato rolls. Their family came plus an aunt, an other “adult child” of ours. The food was good, the gathering even better as we lolled about the living room; the spaces warmed and filled with laughter and random stories. My son and his girlfriend just returned from Hawaii so shared videos and pictures. Young Asher was happy with his gifts–fancy iridescent silly putty being one of the best. His older sister smiled and chatted easily. I felt very happy to be a mother and grandmother.

In the morning it was so bitterly cold that when the snow came it lingered, heated up from all the traffic on roads and then got icy. In the Oregon valley, snow is not welcome, it is difficult, dangerous.I felt exhausted and shaky and uncertain. As a woman living with heart disease for 15 years, I have made countless trips in an ambulance. I always want to avoid it.

Doctor was called: come in, I heard. Husband was summoned and he soon arrived.

It is a mystery, how this pattern has emerged, a sudden shifting of heart rhythms and rates. How blood pressure has skyrocketed when it was not a problem for many years. I would likely only know the latter because I have the blood pressure cuff to take my own vitals–I generally have no discernable symptoms of that. The majority usually do not. I know what is not safe when I read those numbers.

My cardiologist, good Dr. P.– exuding compassion and intelligence while seemingly ignorant he is movie star good-looking—has never steered me wrong. He is the hoped-for combination of attentive listener, brilliant strategist and swift decision maker. I trust him with my life because he has saved it often. I have watched him get older as he has, me, and it is clear he is only mortal, after all. So we always put our heads together; he does the best he is capable of doing.

It wasn’t heart attack symptoms, which an EKG verified. It turns out it is likely the intense chronic pain I have had increasingly over the past few months. The idea is not so surprising; it is clear it has impacted me though I’ve become used to varying degrees of chronic pain throughout my life due to a different health issues. I guess I’ve learned to ignore it mostly, even believe it will not win the battle. I avoid taking OTC pain medicine. (As a person with coronary artery disease I can’t safely use ibuprofen much, though this helps most; it affects heart patients in negative ways as well as health of the stomach.) I do not take opiate medication as I’ve been in recovery from substance abuse for over 25 years. I am anxious even about the drug Dr. P. mentioned, which is not an opiate but perhaps a second or third “cousin”. It targets the same receptors in the brain as do narcotics. I was never an opiate addict, but being recovery means being cautious of all we put in our bodies. And I also know from experience pain can be managed in many holistic ways.

I might have ended up in a bit of a corner now, though. Being stubborn is not so good. I desire to–choose to–live a healthy life each day. I want to stay on the go, enjoy all I can every second. I have a hunger for the wonders and curiosities of life. And sometimes I choose to ignore a difficult need of my own rather than own up and relent. This is not helping me.

“It is time you take something to get the pain under control or you will likely continue to have high blood pressure and tachycardia. The body always reverts to alarm mode with daily pain. And you must find out what you can do next about those old¬†disc issues. Let’s increase your heart medication for now, as well.”

I propped up my aching head on my hand, felt relief but also new fear. What would come of all this?

“I want another really good ten years, Dr. P. Can I do that? I have a lot to do.”

He took my other cold hand in his warm one. “Let’s work at doubling those numbers. Take even better care of yourself–you’ve done such a good job for son long and you can do more. Take your new medicine, too. And if this doesn’t do the trick, back to the drawing board we’ll go.”

Dr. P. remains a crucial light in my life. From the start when no one believed I had heart disease at such a young age (by 50, likely even earlier but diagnosed at 51 during an emergency) he believed me. He made fast and right choices to save me from death or at least serious impairment.

By the time my husband and I left the office, it was snowing mightily. I felt quiet watching the whitening air swirl about us. How much I loved the snow as a kid and even now, how it draws me–its softness and freshness, all those intricately patterned flakes, how it transforms the gritty world for awhile. I expressed my desire to take a slow, short walk when I got home. My husband shut down the idea fast.

So I took my medicine and I have been lounging around feeling like a very unproductive person. Yet resting when rest is needed is a wise thing to do. I will try the pain medicine tonight. I want to sleep long and well for once, and I  need to experience far less misery in this restless, hurting body.

So I decided to share this day with you. If you are a person who has heart disease, first stay as well as you can; the work and fun will still be waiting.¬†And if you are in need of more assistance for any reason at all in your life, don’t hesitate– reach out, find and use it.

My gratitude for every moment runs deep. And even for this trying day–for all human and Godly light that illumine my way. The fiercely exquisite snow. This tough, resilient, tenderly beating heart.

Escape: Part 2

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The SUV hummed along as¬†the sunset melted away.¬†The tires on pavement, the¬†heater fan and¬†warmth brought Darla to the edge of sleep. She speculated¬†about whether or not she¬†was being kidnapped¬†by¬†benign but nutty elders or if soon she would actually be at Granny Robb’s,¬†eating something good. Curled¬†up with¬†a big mug of tea. Darla had called; Granny¬†said¬†she was¬†up north¬†but to come on. She’d be back soon, tomorrow probably. Just lock the doors, lay low. Darla could think in front of a crackling fire at her¬† grandmother’s; that was crucial.¬†She’d feel like herself there,¬†a¬†semi-whole person. Separate from Abe.

It was too good to¬†be true, these Gentry people picking her up.¬†She imagined they were¬†angels–that told her just how desperate she was–but she still had a world of trouble ahead.

“Got any kids?” Kenneth asked. “Or are you footloose?”

Darla sat up straight and blinked.¬†“No, just a dog, a husky¬†named Dixie…”

She felt a¬†longing for Dixie that¬†ached. She was mostly Abe’s dog¬†but Dixie and she had become friends as she worked outdoors, the big dog padding after her¬†when Abe was too busy or gone.

“Want a cat?”

Kenneth chuckled when Roslyn flicked his shoulder hard.

“Never mind him. Noto is her name, short for Notorious–I know, strange name but leave it to Kenneth. At the start she was notoriously fussy and expensive due to health needs. But he indulges me. He enjoys making me happy, lucky me! He’s got his parrot–talks back to me and Noto! You married, dear?”

She didn’t want to talk about personal things. This was a ride to safety, not a social excursion.¬†She could tell them anything she wanted. She could as easily say she was single, a visiting professor from British Columbia. She had gotten lost after a seaside conference and then her car broke down so¬†she decided to just have an adventure and see the States, not go home until she¬†made it to Vancouver via hitchhiking. That she was spontaneous, independent, loved a¬†good challenge.

Yeah, right.

“No, well, once, but things changed.”

“Hmm.” Kenneth¬†took off the weathered straw¬†hat and scratched his head. “Took us awhile to meet up and get hitched. But good thing, as it all worked out.”

Noto climbed up on Roslyn’s shoulder and meowed in assent. The cat¬†sat there, tail twitching back and forth like a serpentine thing.

Roslyn scratched Noto’s ears. “We met at a gym when we were nearly forty. That’s¬†twenty five years ago.¬†We both ran marathons then and worked out. Both teachers, well, Kenneth became an administrator. I taught sixth grade. He was¬†all about science. I was¬†single and he was widowed young. So there we were, working up a sweat and trying¬†not to¬†steal a glance at each other week after week. He had good legs! One thing led to another. Coffee out,¬†running dates, then dinner at my place…I guess some are meant to be married and some are not.”

Darla looked out the window. Could they go faster and talk less? She felt something rise up from her gut and it¬†clutched her with misgiving. She and Abe: three years, six months, nine days. Too long.¬†That’s what she finally decided even though he had this¬†delicious¬†appeal, the way he made her laugh, how he could¬†rejuvenate things with a¬†hammer and nails. His boldly good looks. His way with the campers, which was oddly patient. His lasagna and pot roast dinners. The way he held her¬†when things were¬†good. Up to Abe’s standards, that is. Yes,¬†long enough. Now she¬†had to keep out of his reach. Convince him she was not the one. They were a mistake that needed¬†undoing.

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The coastal road was¬†full of switchbacks and Noto was thrown forward, landing on Darla’s lap, claws extended to catch hold. Darla tried to lift her and give her back. The cat hung on to her hoodie, then turned three times and settled on her lap, throwing Darla a look that indicated tolerance and possible appreciation. Darla smiled at¬†Roslyn when she looked back.

“See? Noto’s good with people when she trusts them. Great instincts, too. So tell me about your grandmother.”

Kenneth grunted, either at the Noto remark or a truck that passed going around seventy instead of fifty.

“She helped raise me and now that my mom’s in Seattle, she’s my family.¬†Granny used to own a gift shop in town.”

Why did she have to say that? The less information the better. Or was she being paranoid? Abe always warned her to say nothing.  Treat everyone with suspicion, except the campers and their families. They brought in money. Used to. He made less money since he married her, he said. All her fault, her shyness, her laziness.

Breathe, just breathe slowly. Think first, speak judiciously, act later.

“A gift shop in Winton? I wonder if I’ve been there.”

“Not likely! She sold it four years ago, or is it five? I was in college¬† when that occurred. Now she’s retired.”

Roslyn reached back for Noto but¬†the tabby¬†was purring,¬†rumbling against Darla’s legs.

“The¬†shop was called what, dear?”

I didn’t say, she thought. I don’t¬†want to talk about anything, let you know me.

She considered asking them to stop, let her out, but the heat inside, the cold outdoors, the way the cat had snuggled close…Or she could just spew it,¬†how terrified she was getting, how she didn’t know what to do. How Abe could be wonderful and then not, just like that.

No, keep steady now.

“Cornucopia.”

“Cornucopia? My goodness, I know that place! I’ve shopped there for years because she’s had the best jewelry and special things. I made it a habit to stop there for some Christmas gifts. You said her name was… Lisa? Lela? No, Lena! I did note there was a change in staff.”

Darla didn’t answer. She had lain her head back and closed her eyes. Roslyn got quiet again.¬†The car swayed along the narrow road. The cat¬†seemed to snore. Maybe she had cats wrong,¬†they could okay companions,¬†smaller and less willing to play but still… She recalled Dixie, those blue eyes, that furry breadth¬†when Darla hugged her. Dixie had been consistently gentler¬†than Abe had ever¬†been and that undisputed¬†fact brought a prickling of tears.

Kenneth spoke¬†in a whisper to his wife. “Do you think something is wrong or is it just me?”

“Of course.” She whispered back. “Just trying to figure it out. What woman would¬†hitchhike alone?”

“You know that shopkeeper?”

“I know of her but can’t recall her¬†whole¬†name.” Her voice grew¬† louder. “Well, we’re going to her house so¬†we’ll meet.” She looked back at Darla to find her eyes still closed. “I think she’s running away.”

“Why that? From what?”

“I just feel it. She’s secretive. Worn out. Something desperate about her look.”

Darla didn’t care. She just wanted to sleep, dream of solutions, awaken somewhere else to find morning light greeting her like a balm. No fear. No wondering what was next.¬†So what if they suspected something? She’d be at Granny’s soon. Never see them again.

They were close now. She opened her eyes¬†a small slit and took in the lights of town. Saturday night and everything was lit up like a celebration in little Winton, tarnished jewel of the coast. It gave her a headache. If she had had money she’d be somewhere far from here. Mexico. Hawaii. Even Alaska sounded good¬†tonight.

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She sat up. Noto jumped off her lap.

“Turn left here,” Darla directed, “then turn left again and down four blocks to the beach.¬†Otter Road; the house is an A-frame.”

They drove¬†slowly up to Lena Robb’s dark house. Darla felt her jaw tense and then…no, really? There, parked¬†right before the driveway, was her apparently repaired Volvo.¬†Abe sat in it. He turned his head toward the Gentry¬†car.

Darla fell over and bent down.”Keep going! Don’t stop! Abe is there!”

Kenneth said¬†nothing but kept driving at a steady pace.¬†Roslyn patted Darla’s back with her warm, thin¬†hand. They drove on, right out of Winton and then sped up.

“Say now, Darla…how about coming to our place, having dinner? You can rest, call your grandmother.”

Darla clutched the back of Roslyn’s seat. Tears had breached her¬† will to just carry on¬†and she could not stop. She cried so hard,¬†the painful breaths emptying in small heaves,¬†that Noto cried out with her. Roslyn took her hand and asked Kenneth to¬†pull over.

“Please–right now, Kenneth.”

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Darla could barely make out the¬†dash lights but she felt like she was in an airplane or a space ship going somewhere strange¬†and unknown¬†and all she could think¬†was I’m leaving I’m leaving I’m leaving I am really leaving.

The Gentrys waited until the crying stopped.

Roslyn spoke softly. “You’re safe, my girl.¬†We’ll shelter you until you get Lena to come.”

“Yes, please let us¬†help,¬†dear,” Kenneth said, his voice husky.

They drove on to the Gentry cottage. Darkness¬†was like a silky veil on Darla’s hot face as night accompanied them in a quest for comfort. Darla hummed to herself, an old lullaby her mother had sung¬†to her when she was a kid and life was¬†an unblemished horizon.¬†How to get back? Or was she finally going forward?¬†Noto¬†curled up on her lap to better¬†watch her the rest of the journey.

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